Lies and labels

In Exodus 5 we find that because the Israelites  were trying to find freedom to go and worship their God Pharaoh put the pressure on big time! Do not be suprised if whilst try to shake of inhibitions and find freedom that your enemy starts putting the pressure on for you to stay the same. We must be careful that we don”t react in fear but stand strong.

 “That same day Pharaoh gave this order to the slave drivers and overseers in charge of the people:  “You are no longer to supply the people with straw for making bricks; let them go and gather their own straw.  But require them to make the same number of bricks as before; don’t reduce the quota. They are lazy; that is why they are crying out, ‘Let us go and worship our God.’ 6-8

Traditional target arrow and replica medieval ...

Traditional target arrow and replica medieval arrow. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

They are lazy!! What a label for a people crying out under the constant work load demanded of them. If I was trying day in day out just to keep going and get everything done  and someone turned around and called me lazy it would be like an arrow to my heart.

I have had arrows like that thrown at me before. Often I dodge them as they are thrown in jest – “Oh Alison you are crazy!” . I can brush them off when I don’t agree with them. They do no damage to my heart and I do not listen to them. But sometimes things people say stick to me. I remember a lie said to me once by a leader – “You are negative that is why you are not feeling happy”.  I agreed with the assessment of me  as I listen to them and the arrow was given permission, by me, to land into my inner life.

The arrow started to cause problem with my daily living. It was painful and caused me to accept other lies. I thought “I am negative and a bad influence on other people and I will just bring everyone down”. I stopped talking in fear that I would be negative. My lack of interaction in conversations made me think up questions whilst people were talking and I thought that it was a symptom of being negative. I  sometime thought the questions were wrong and perhaps I was not good hearted after all—- I think you get the picture.

The key to dealing with lies that people throw at you is not to agree with them. They can only stick on you if you let them. If you brush them off they loose their power straight away. Laugh at the cheek of the enemy to try and stick  false labels on you. The time that is hardest to brush off a lie is if you know that there is a glimmer of truth in it. You see the sugar coating is true so you swallow down the whole pill into your depths thinking that the medicine is yours.

Today: List all the lies and labels people have put on you over the years. It might be a church leader, school teacher, friend, spouse, parent etc. Sit down and break agreement with the lies you have agreed with and allowed in. Tell them they have no place in your life.

Don’t just read this post but be deliberate in taking each of those arrows out – they wont go away by chance 🙂

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2 thoughts on “Lies and labels

  1. Sometimes I’ve found the hardest lies and labels to break agreement with are the ones we tell ourselves – for example because I’m introverted I will always have a problem speaking to people – especially when it’s been true in the past when I was a teenager. I’ve found getting a friend to stand with me has been the only way of breaking some of these strong lies and wounds.
    Thanks for suggesting the exercise to list all the lies and labels and break agreement. Brilliant and effective!
    Dave

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